24.06.2025 13:40
Gülseren Budayıcıoğlu drew attention with her sincere statements about infidelity and forgiveness on the Haber Bahane program broadcasted on Haberler.com. The famous psychiatrist, who said, "If I were cheated on, I would forgive," emphasized that not forgiving creates a barrier in the human soul.
Famous psychiatrist and author Gülseren Budayıcıoğlu was a guest on the Haber Bahane program hosted by Gökay Kalaycıoğlu on Haberler.com. Making striking statements about her personal life, professional journey, and the background of her works, Budayıcıoğlu particularly addressed social relationships in depth through the series "Kral Kaybederse."
"KRAL KAYBEDERSE" WAS A WOMEN'S REVOLUTION
At the opening of the program, Budayıcıoğlu drew attention by saying, "Narcissistic men are really very dangerous for us women," and expressed that a women's revolution was almost experienced at the time the book "Kral Kaybederse" was published. She stated that women realized their dependent relationships with narcissistic men thanks to this book and were able to make radical decisions in their lives. She expressed her satisfaction with the success that followed the adaptation of the book into a series but said that the main story would emerge in the second season.
"WOMEN LOVE NARCISSISTIC MEN"
Budayıcıoğlu elaborated on how narcissistic men affect women, emphasizing that these types of men can suddenly leave women after elevating them. "Women do not realize this game in time. But those who read the book managed to see their situations from the outside," she said. She noted that the inner world of narcissists is actually quite fragile and that they are unhappy, even if they seem successful, as they cannot establish real relationships.
STRIKING WORDS ON INFIDELITY AND FORGIVENESS
Gülseren Budayıcıoğlu drew attention with her approach to infidelity. Responding sincerely to a question posed by Kalaycıoğlu, Budayıcıoğlu expressed that she could forgive if she were cheated on. With this answer, she made important observations about the psychological effects of forgiveness.
"IF I WERE CHEATED ON, I WOULD FORGIVE. BECAUSE NOT FORGIVING MAKES YOU LIVE LIFE LIKE A DISABLED PERSON."
According to Budayıcıoğlu, not forgiving becomes a heavy burden that a person carries on their life journey. Although the difficulty of forgiveness varies depending on the form and timing of infidelity, she argued that the main benefit of forgiveness is to the person, that is, the victim. "The type of infidelity is very important. If it is a temporary situation experienced in a moment of emotional emptiness, it can be compensated. But if it is done intentionally to harm, then other emotions come into play," she stated, indicating that infidelity also has layers.
"MY SPOUSE DID NOT CHEAT, EVEN IF HE DID, HE COULDN'T HIDE IT."
In the program, Budayıcıoğlu also expressed her trust in her partner's loyalty, stating that her spouse is a very honest and open person, and if he had cheated, he could not have hidden it, saying, "My spouse was the clearest, most honest person in the world. If he had cheated, he couldn't have hidden it."
"IF MY SPOUSE WERE ALIVE, NONE OF THESE SUCCESSES WOULD BE POSSIBLE."
Another striking point in Budayıcıoğlu's statements was her confession that she would not have reached the level of productivity and success she has today if her spouse were alive. She described her spouse as a very jealous person who always wanted to see her by his side, saying, "If my spouse were alive, he would never allow me to come to Istanbul, to write books, or to stay in the clinic at night. He wouldn't like me to be visible."
Budayıcıoğlu pointed out that jealousy also indicates a loving bond in their relationship, stating that her spouse always loved her very much but did not create a free space for her to produce. In this context, she confessed that her spouse's absence opened up space for her success, saying, "His absence is a great void for me, but this void also gave me the power to write."